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|Jimmy Burroughes|3 min read

The Most Uncomfortable Part of Leadership (That No One Warns You About)

The Most Uncomfortable Part of Leadership (That No One Warns You About)

One of the biggest myths in leadership is that, at some point, it gets "easier."

We assume that as we move up, the answers become obvious. We think experience will eventually remove the doubt and the decisions will start making themselves.

It is actually the opposite.

The further you go, the more you are presented with situations that are rarely black or white. You are faced with a daily stream of questions that do not have easy answers or clear solutions.

And that is exactly where most leaders get stuck.

When the Rulebook Disappears

I was recently asked a brilliant question by a leader who was wrestling with the balance between "high-impact" strategy and the "low-altitude" operational work that keeps a team stable.

She was looking for the right answer.

The truth is, there isn't one.

The transition from manager to leader means you have to find a mechanism to move forward without a clear solution. It means sitting in the grey area and deciding how to act when there is no "correct" path.

This is the part that no one warns you about: The higher you go, the less I (or anyone else) can simply tell you what to do.

The Work IS the Thinking

We are so conditioned to "deliver" that we feel guilty when we aren't "doing."

But sitting down, reflecting, and working it out is not a distraction from the work.

The work of sitting with it IS the leadership.

It is uncomfortable. It feels slow. It lacks the immediate dopamine hit of clearing an inbox or solving a tactical fire. But this is exactly where the growth lives.

Getting out of the business of "delivering" so you can choose where to deliver most impactfully is a mental shift that many never make. They stay busy because busy feels safe. Leaders stay quiet because they need to think.

Building the Muscle

When you are stuck between two choices, or wondering where your energy should go, you need to work the problem.

This isn't about finding a magic framework that does the work for you. It’s about using the tools we discuss—like the PVC model or the "1%" shifts—as lenses to see the situation more clearly.

But at the end of the day, the person who knows best what is high or low value for your team is you.

Every time you force yourself to sit with that discomfort, you are building a muscle. You are teaching yourself to trust your own judgment.

You will use that same muscle a hundred more times this year.

Your Next Step

If you are feeling the weight of a decision that doesn't have a clear answer, do not rush to find a solution.

Instead, find a quiet half hour. Grab a coffee and a notebook. Put the phone in another room.

Let yourself think it through properly. Do not look for the "right" answer; look for the intentional one.

You are closer than you think. You just have to trust yourself on this one.


How often do you give yourself permission to just think?

I would love to hear how you handle those "grey area" decisions. Does it feel like productive work, or like you’re falling behind?

Follow for more on the messy, uncomfortable, and ultimate rewarding transition to strategic leadership.


P.S. If you feel like you are "robbing" your own leadership by staying stuck in the delivery phase, Amplify is designed to help you build the systems and the confidence to step back. It’s about learning to trust your judgment so your team can finally trust theirs.